"I lost my brother,"
sobbed a stranger crying on my shoulder. "John was just like a
brother to me. Do you know what I mean?"
"Uhhh, yes," I mumbled
back rather incredulous.
After all, we were at the funeral of
my only sibling.
Sharing words of comfort at a
funeral is something many find an uneasy task.
Unfortunately, this discomfort often manifests itself into awkward
statements to the bereaved. Instead soothing the grief-stricken, they are left feeling
worse.
Here
are a few other things to avoid:
He is in a better place.
She lived a good long time. My neighbor's daughter died young.
Did the doctors give her any
hope?
You will get over it.
I know how you feel. I lost my pet iguana last month.
It was his time.
How
to express sympathy sincerely:
I am so sorry for your loss.
I fondly remember insert name of
the deceased for his/her insert something like great belly laugh, love
of karaoke or poker skills.
What an inspiration he/she was with
their insert something like being a terrific father/mother.
I don’t know what to say, but I am
here to help anytime you need.
You are in the thoughts and prayers.
Don’t say anything. Instead, offer a hug.
